Carry my tears with you (carry it in
your heart) never be without it (anywhere
you go i go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
i fear
no tears (for you are my tears, my sweat) i want
no words (for beautiful no words can describe you, my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always wept
and whatever a sun will always dry is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;
which feed on my tears & grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars in your eyes
i carry your tears (i carry it in my eyes,
so that your eyes may always be without them)
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Sunday, July 09, 2006
Collective Consciousness
"Collective Consciousness & Unconsciousness co-create Collective Reality, which in reality is only Collective Illusion, which we can also label as Collective Delusion... ..." ~ Alex Chua
Friday, June 30, 2006
Synchronicity
"There are no coincidence, only synchronicity. There are no strangers, only friends who have not met." ~ Alex Chua
Monday, June 19, 2006
Zaadz Ambassador
I just joined Zaadz as a "Zaadz Ambassadors" early this morning... about 2am :-) They asked 3 interesting questions... my answers are below...
What is your Philosophy in two sentences?
Go Beyond Possibilities to Live the Life We Were Born to Live in the most Fulfilling, Positive & Productive way. It is Our Duty, Do It NOW!
How are we going to change the world together?
By Sharing the Unique Gifts & Talents each of us was born with. The Web of Life is made of Webs of Relationships, weaved though Sharing & Service of our best Self, our SPARKS of Genius.
By anchoring with the Environment in interdependent relationships of Mutual Support, the Spider’s web has the Strength to Support the Spider’s weight.
These strings of webs come from within the Spider & is a part of the Spider’s core Essence. The Support is built by the hardwork of the Spider, Extending & Expressing its Essence with Love, & Engaging the Universe with a Passion for Life.
This Act of Love & Light is a Purposeful one. One that can only be achieved with Presence in each moment & a deep sense of Possibilities.
Be inspired to find your Personal Path Beyond Possibilities! I am only your Clarity Guide… I cannot walk your Path for you… only you can do that… do it NOW!
What do you love most about Zaadz?
The Zaadz community has the Aspiration to change the world & also the Inspiration to do it. It is comforting to know that we are not alone… & it is a Source of Strength to know that we are all connected in a Web of Mutual Support. We can do it & we are already doing it NOW ;-)
You can view my updated profile & testimonials @ http://clarityquest.zaadz.com/
I have also started a Pod for What the Bleep Do We Know!? & The Secret
I invite you to join me on this Journey of Learning! Lets Change the World Together!
What is your Philosophy in two sentences?
Go Beyond Possibilities to Live the Life We Were Born to Live in the most Fulfilling, Positive & Productive way. It is Our Duty, Do It NOW!
How are we going to change the world together?
By Sharing the Unique Gifts & Talents each of us was born with. The Web of Life is made of Webs of Relationships, weaved though Sharing & Service of our best Self, our SPARKS of Genius.
By anchoring with the Environment in interdependent relationships of Mutual Support, the Spider’s web has the Strength to Support the Spider’s weight.
These strings of webs come from within the Spider & is a part of the Spider’s core Essence. The Support is built by the hardwork of the Spider, Extending & Expressing its Essence with Love, & Engaging the Universe with a Passion for Life.
This Act of Love & Light is a Purposeful one. One that can only be achieved with Presence in each moment & a deep sense of Possibilities.
Be inspired to find your Personal Path Beyond Possibilities! I am only your Clarity Guide… I cannot walk your Path for you… only you can do that… do it NOW!
What do you love most about Zaadz?
The Zaadz community has the Aspiration to change the world & also the Inspiration to do it. It is comforting to know that we are not alone… & it is a Source of Strength to know that we are all connected in a Web of Mutual Support. We can do it & we are already doing it NOW ;-)
You can view my updated profile & testimonials @ http://clarityquest.zaadz.com/
I have also started a Pod for What the Bleep Do We Know!? & The Secret
I invite you to join me on this Journey of Learning! Lets Change the World Together!
Tuesday, June 13, 2006
Shifting Your Labels
"Crazy people who are productive are geniuses. Crazy people who are rich are eccentric. Crazy people who are neither productive nor rich are just plain crazy. Geniuses and crazy people are both out in the middle of a deep ocean; geniuses swim, crazy people drown. Most of us are sitting safely on the shore. Take a chance and get your feet wet."
The following list was published in Handbook of Cognitive Therapy Techniques, by Rian McMullin. Please use it to shift your labels to the RIGHT one if you must label anything at all ;-)
~ Michael J. Gelb
The following list was published in Handbook of Cognitive Therapy Techniques, by Rian McMullin. Please use it to shift your labels to the RIGHT one if you must label anything at all ;-)
| A person who... | Could be called... | Or could be called... |
| changes one's mind a lot | wishy-washy | flexible |
| expresses one's opinion | egotistical | honest, assertive |
| is emotionally sensitive | sick, fragile | alive, caring, open |
| is selective in choosing a mate | afraid to commit | patient, careful, discriminating |
| gets depressed sometimes | neurotic | normal human being |
| isn't good at a game | stupid, inferior | hasn't practiced |
| isn't orderly | sloppy, piggish | spontaneous, carefree |
| pleases others | social phobic | likable |
| believes what others say | gullible | trusting |
| loves another strongly | dependent | loving |
| gets anxious | weak, cowardly | learned to, was taught |
| is nontraditional | malcontent, heretical, immoral | independent, uninhibited, free |
| is helped by another | manipulated | cared for |
| is not working hard on a task | lazy | relaxed |
| is sure of something | conceited | self-confident |
| stands up for personal rights | argumentative | gutsy |
| thinks before making decisions | indecisive | careful |
| takes risks | harebrained | brave |
| sticks to projects | compulsive | determined |
| gets excited | hysterical | exuberant |
~ Rian McMullin
Monday, June 12, 2006
Journaling E-book
Journaling has always been a very powerful experience for me & it is one of the few things that I insist my students do for themselves. The following is the best Journaling tool I have come across so far. Check it out & don't forget to share your success stories with me :-)
Journaling E-book - Offering 40 journal writing topics and tools.
Friday, June 09, 2006
A Fishy Coaching Story About Happiness: The Mexican Fisherman
An American businessman was at a pier in a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow-fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
The Mexican replied only a little while.
The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish?
The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs.
The American then asked the Mexican how he spent the rest of his time.
The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senor.”
The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and, with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution.
“You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise.”
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But senor, how long will this all take?”
To which the American replied, “15-20 years.”
“But what then, senor?” asked the Mexican.
The American laughed, and said, “That’s the best part! When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public. You’ll become very rich, you
would make millions!”
“Millions, senor?” replied the Mexican. “Then what?”
The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”
The Mexican replied only a little while.
The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish?
The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs.
The American then asked the Mexican how he spent the rest of his time.
The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senor.”
The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and, with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution.
“You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise.”
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But senor, how long will this all take?”
To which the American replied, “15-20 years.”
“But what then, senor?” asked the Mexican.
The American laughed, and said, “That’s the best part! When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public. You’ll become very rich, you
would make millions!”
“Millions, senor?” replied the Mexican. “Then what?”
The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”
Thursday, June 08, 2006
Balance
Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air.
You name them – work, family, health, friends and spirit and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered.
They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.
You name them – work, family, health, friends and spirit and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered.
They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.
~ Brian Dyson
Wednesday, June 07, 2006
True Lasting Happiness - A Sufi Parable
Are you like a dog chewing a dry bone?
A Sufi Master once saw a dog chewing the dry bone of a buffalo. The bone has jagged edges and sharply cut the tongue, gums and mouth of the dog. Blood flowed and the dog licked and chewed even harder. The blood and flesh it was tasting were its own but the dog believed they were from the bone. The dog did not ever bother to question whether or not this was true.
The dog vigorously continued to chew this bone with its sharp canine holding it with its hefty forelegs, even though it hurts itself more the longer it does so. The bone was dry. The marrow had gone. There was no flesh around. The bone possessed nothing but a rotten smell. But its impact on the dog was tempting. It was not ready to leave the bone and was clinging on to it hard.
Pondered our world and its mendacity, its temporality, its tribulation, and its temptations. Is the world not like a bone to the dog?
Man bears and nurtures first. Then he snatches, tears, levels, and captures. He thinks of getting luxuries, comforts, and enjoyment. A dry bone to a dog!
And what do you think would happen if another dog entered the story and demanded the bone from the first dog? Would it give the bone knowing that it was bare and dry or would it fight for it?
The peace, joy and happiness we seek are already inside us all this while. We were born into this world with them. but we keep hunting for them outside...
The worldly things we pine for so desperately and accumulate so avariciously wound us in the same manner the bone cuts the dog, but we believe the pleasure we derive is from those material objects and cling to them more ferociously, fighting with whoever crosses our path.
Blood drip from our wounds and stain our path of life. Still we continue with apparent relish, striving for more money and the next toy to buy.
The happiness we seek is already here, within us. We only need to recognise, experience and appreciate it, instead of trying to substitute the feeling of true happiness with that which we derive from our incessant acquisition as fueled by the media and our current culture of excessive consumption!
True lasting happiness comes with letting go of our desires and wants, appreciating whatever is already here within us.
A Sufi Master once saw a dog chewing the dry bone of a buffalo. The bone has jagged edges and sharply cut the tongue, gums and mouth of the dog. Blood flowed and the dog licked and chewed even harder. The blood and flesh it was tasting were its own but the dog believed they were from the bone. The dog did not ever bother to question whether or not this was true.
The dog vigorously continued to chew this bone with its sharp canine holding it with its hefty forelegs, even though it hurts itself more the longer it does so. The bone was dry. The marrow had gone. There was no flesh around. The bone possessed nothing but a rotten smell. But its impact on the dog was tempting. It was not ready to leave the bone and was clinging on to it hard.
Pondered our world and its mendacity, its temporality, its tribulation, and its temptations. Is the world not like a bone to the dog?
Man bears and nurtures first. Then he snatches, tears, levels, and captures. He thinks of getting luxuries, comforts, and enjoyment. A dry bone to a dog!
And what do you think would happen if another dog entered the story and demanded the bone from the first dog? Would it give the bone knowing that it was bare and dry or would it fight for it?
The peace, joy and happiness we seek are already inside us all this while. We were born into this world with them. but we keep hunting for them outside...
The worldly things we pine for so desperately and accumulate so avariciously wound us in the same manner the bone cuts the dog, but we believe the pleasure we derive is from those material objects and cling to them more ferociously, fighting with whoever crosses our path.
Blood drip from our wounds and stain our path of life. Still we continue with apparent relish, striving for more money and the next toy to buy.
The happiness we seek is already here, within us. We only need to recognise, experience and appreciate it, instead of trying to substitute the feeling of true happiness with that which we derive from our incessant acquisition as fueled by the media and our current culture of excessive consumption!
True lasting happiness comes with letting go of our desires and wants, appreciating whatever is already here within us.
~ A Sufi Parable
Tuesday, June 06, 2006
The Secret of Happiness: A Reflective Exercise by Anthony DeMello
Recall the kind of feeling you have when someone praises you, when you are approved, accepted, applauded. And contrast that with the kind of feeling that arises within you when you look at the sunset or a sunrise, or Nature in general or when you read a book or watch a movie that you thoroughly enjoy. Get a taste of this feeling and contrast it with the first, namely, the one that was generated within you when you were praised.
Understand that the first type of feeling comes from self-glorification, self-promotion. It is a worldly feeling. The second comes from self-fulfillment. It is a soul feeling. Here is another contrast: Recall the kind of feeling you have when you succeed, when you have made it, when you get to the top, when you win a game or bet or argument. And contrast it with the kind of feeling you get when you really enjoy the job you are doing, you are absorbed in, the action you are currently engaged in. And once again notice the qualitative difference between the worldly feeling and the soul feeling.
Yet another contrast: Remember what you felt like when you had power, you were the boss, people looked up to you, took orders from you; or when you were popular. And contrast that worldly feeling with the feeling of intimacy, companionship - the times you thoroughly enjoyed yourself in the company of a friend or with a group in which there was fun and laughter. Having done this, attempt to understand the true nature of worldly feelings, namely, the feelings of self-promotion, self-glorification. They are not natural, they were invented by your society to make you productive and to make you controllable. These feelings do not produce the nourishment and happiness that is produced when one contemplates Nature or enjoys the company of one's friends or one's work. They were meant to produce thrills, excitement and emptiness.
Then observe yourself over the course of a day or a week and think how many actions of yours are performed, how many activities engaged in that are uncontaminated by the desires for these thrills, these excitements that only produce emptiness, the desire for attention, approval, fame, popularity, success or power. And take a look at the people around you. Is there a single one of them who has not become addicted to these worldly feelings? A single one who is not controlled by them, hungers for them, spends every minute of his/her waking life consciously or unconsciously seeking them? When you see this you will understand how people attempt to gain the world and, in the process, lose their soul.
And here is a parable of life for you to ponder on: A group of tourists sit in a bus that is passing through gorgeously beautiful country; lakes and mountains and green fields and rivers. But the shades of the bus are pulled down. They do not have the slightest idea of what lies beyond the windows of the bus. And all the time of their journey is spent in squabbling over who will have the seat of honor in the bus, who will be applauded, who will be well considered. And so they remain till the journey's end.
Understand that the first type of feeling comes from self-glorification, self-promotion. It is a worldly feeling. The second comes from self-fulfillment. It is a soul feeling. Here is another contrast: Recall the kind of feeling you have when you succeed, when you have made it, when you get to the top, when you win a game or bet or argument. And contrast it with the kind of feeling you get when you really enjoy the job you are doing, you are absorbed in, the action you are currently engaged in. And once again notice the qualitative difference between the worldly feeling and the soul feeling.
Yet another contrast: Remember what you felt like when you had power, you were the boss, people looked up to you, took orders from you; or when you were popular. And contrast that worldly feeling with the feeling of intimacy, companionship - the times you thoroughly enjoyed yourself in the company of a friend or with a group in which there was fun and laughter. Having done this, attempt to understand the true nature of worldly feelings, namely, the feelings of self-promotion, self-glorification. They are not natural, they were invented by your society to make you productive and to make you controllable. These feelings do not produce the nourishment and happiness that is produced when one contemplates Nature or enjoys the company of one's friends or one's work. They were meant to produce thrills, excitement and emptiness.
Then observe yourself over the course of a day or a week and think how many actions of yours are performed, how many activities engaged in that are uncontaminated by the desires for these thrills, these excitements that only produce emptiness, the desire for attention, approval, fame, popularity, success or power. And take a look at the people around you. Is there a single one of them who has not become addicted to these worldly feelings? A single one who is not controlled by them, hungers for them, spends every minute of his/her waking life consciously or unconsciously seeking them? When you see this you will understand how people attempt to gain the world and, in the process, lose their soul.
And here is a parable of life for you to ponder on: A group of tourists sit in a bus that is passing through gorgeously beautiful country; lakes and mountains and green fields and rivers. But the shades of the bus are pulled down. They do not have the slightest idea of what lies beyond the windows of the bus. And all the time of their journey is spent in squabbling over who will have the seat of honor in the bus, who will be applauded, who will be well considered. And so they remain till the journey's end.
~ Anthony DeMello
Sunday, May 28, 2006
The Secret of Success: The Shortest Summary
The Secret of Success is Simply to Share your SPARKS of Genius with Society.
Answering this Question can shed some light on how you might wish to do so:
"What is the purpose of money in my life?"
Answering this Question can shed some light on how you might wish to do so:
"What is the purpose of money in my life?"
Friday, May 26, 2006
The Twelve Gateways to Personal Growth
1 - Discover Your Worth: "No matter how intelligent, attractive or talented you may be — to the degree that you doubt your worthiness you tend to sabotage your efforts and undermine your relationships." You open up to abundant life only to the extent you believe you deserve it. How good can you stand it today?
2 - Reclaim Your Will: "Until you reclaim your will — assert your power to act upon what you know — even the best plans remain unrealized." Self-respect comes from doing what needs to be done, whether or not you are in the mood. Can you turn knowledge into action?
3 - Energize Your Body: "If you lack vitality, nothing else really matters; if you have your health, anything is possible." The only thing you are sure to keep for a lifetime is your body. How might you take better care of your body?
4 - Manage Your Money: "By clarifying your goals and using your gifts, you can make good money, doing what you enjoy while serving the highest calling of your soul." Money is neither god nor devil, but a form of energy and a practical necessity. Have you achieved financial stability?
5 - Tame Your Mind: "The world is...a reflection of your mind. As your mind clears, you perceive reality simply as it is." You see the world through filters of belief, opinion and interpretation. How do your beliefs shape your experience?
6 - Trust Your Intuition: "Your subconscious holds keys to a treasure house of intuitive wisdom, clear sight and untapped power." There are hidden ways of knowing about and responding to the world. Have you accessed your inner guidance system?
7 - Accept Your Emotions: "Accept emotions completely, let your feelings be; just don't let them run your life." Feelings are natural; you need not fix them, but transcend them. Have you made peace with your emotions?
8 - Face Your Fears: "courage is not in the absence of fear, but the conquering of it." Everyday courage is not a feeling but an action. Have you made fear your servant and guide, or let it become your master?
9 - Illuminate Your Shadow: "Releasing energy once bound in defense of self-image, you find energy, understanding, humility and compassion." Self-knowledge generates authenticity, energy and compassion. Do you truly know yourself, or only your self-image?
10 - Embrace Your Sexuality: "Life is not a matter of indulging or denying the energies of life, but observing, accepting, and wisely channeling them." Making love can be a spiritual practice and a celebration of life. Have you realized your potential for intimacy and joy?
11 - Awaken Your Heart: "Love endures not from words or feelings alone, but from actions that carry you beyond the interests of separate self, beyond reason or motive, to embrace all people, things and circumstances." Love is an action that opens the gateways to everyday enlightenment. Can you act with love without reason?
12 - Serve Your World: "Service is both a means and an end, for in giving to others, you open yourself to love, abundance, and inner peace." The final gateway brings meaning to life. How might you make a positive difference for someone today?
— from Everyday Enlightenment
by Dan Millman
Wednesday, May 10, 2006
Some Quotes to BARE
"There is nothing about a caterpillar that tells you it's going to be a butterfly."
"We discover in ourselves what others hide from us and we recognize in others what we hide from ourselves."
"It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end."
~ Ursula K. Le Guin
~ Buckminster Fuller
"We discover in ourselves what others hide from us and we recognize in others what we hide from ourselves."
~ Vauvenargues
"It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end."
~ Ursula K. Le Guin
"Imagination is more important than knowledge."
"Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you."
"Have less, do less, be more!"
"The instructions for thinking outside the box are printed on the outside."
"Usually, the brain that contains the problem is the brain that contains the solution."
~ Albert Einstein
"Joy is peace dancing, peace is joy resting.""There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
~ Albert Einstein"What is life, without a dream?"
"It's never too late to become what you might have been."
"If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves."
~ Edmund Rostand
"You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true."
~ Richard Bach
~ Francis Drake
"You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore."
~ Francis Drake
"It's never too late to become what you might have been."
~ George Eliot
"If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves."
~ Thomas Edison
"You don't have to be great to get started, but you have to get started to be great."
"People are where they are because that's exactly where they really want to be...whether they'll admit that or not."
~ Les Brown
"Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."~ Mark Twain
"Both optimists and pessimists contribute to the society. The optimist invents the aeroplane, the pessimist the parachute."~ George Bernard Shaw
"People are where they are because that's exactly where they really want to be...whether they'll admit that or not."
~ William James
"Without passion man is a mere latent force and possibility, like the flint which awaits the shock of the iron before it can give forth its spark."~ Henri Frederic Amiel
"Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you."
"Have less, do less, be more!"
"The instructions for thinking outside the box are printed on the outside."
"Usually, the brain that contains the problem is the brain that contains the solution."
Saturday, April 15, 2006
5 Rules for Living
1. Show Up
2. Pay Attention
3. Live Your Truth
4. Do Your Best Every Moment
5. Don't Be Attached to the Outcome
2. Pay Attention
3. Live Your Truth
4. Do Your Best Every Moment
5. Don't Be Attached to the Outcome
Thursday, April 13, 2006
20 Ways to Encourage your Child’s Creativity by Tina Nocera
The following piece is written by Tina Nocera (http://www.parentalwisdom.com/) & publish on http://www.goalfree.com/ the resourceful website of Stephen M. Shapiro, author of Goal-Free Living.
1. Give young children a tape recorder so they can capture their ideas.
2. Change your normal mode of transportation. If you usually drive, occasionally take a bus or train.
3. Grow a garden with your child. Even a windowsill garden can be fun.
4. Give older children an ‘idea journal’ which can be as inexpensive as a 59¢ composition notebook.
5. Take nature walks and see what your child sees; you’ll be amazed at his powers of observation.
6. Discuss new discoveries over dinner and ask your children how they would use them.
7. Toss out a problem and ask them how they would solve it; don’t limit the problems to those you think they could solve. They may surprise you.
8. Start a story and let the children finish it.
9. Limit noise, video games, and computer time.
10. Play games with your children and read to them.
11. Ask your children to explain what they have created; don’t assume you know what it is.
12. Let them do it for themselves; we know you can color.
13. Give your children supplies and materials you find around the house. Resist the urge to buy craft kits.
14. Let your children find their own ‘right way’ in art. Don’t insist that it is done your way.
15. Appreciate your child’s individuality. Resist temptations to compare children. It’s a subtle message to conform.
16. Encourage curiosity.
17. Answer their questions. If you don’t know the answer, tell them you need time before answering.
18. Give your child time to daydream, think, and play. This gives them the opportunity to come up with ideas of their own.
19. Have creativity be its own reward. When our children do something, we have to encourage them to simply enjoy doing it rather than the competition or the reward. We are too quick to give stickers, ribbons, and trophies for anything. All this does is promote the external value rather than instilling a pleasure for learning.
20. Encourage your children to try new things. This is the best way to learn. Resolve yourself to understanding that your child won’t always be successful, but we still have to try and even encourage mistakes and failures.
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Goal-Free Parenting by Stephen M. Shapiro
63% of adults say, “I encourage those that I care about to pursue goals that I think are best for them.” Whose life are your children living? One person I interviewed became wildly successful – and just recently emerged from rehab. His career was “chosen” by his parents, and destroyed his life. We are in an era plagued by the demise of imagination in children, squelching it to the detriment of emotional growth.
Kids today have quickly become the most over micromanaged population of our society. A tongue-in-cheek look into this potentially debilitating trend is the best-seller “The Nanny Diaries” where parents are enrolling not only unborn babies, but not yet conceived babies into “the best” pre-schools in Manhattan, French classes and art history courses. Thus ensuring their future place at Harvard and placement at Morgan Stanley.
The serious side of this parenting micromanagement is that children are being led through life, living someone else’s goals. Why is it that a 3 year old needs his/her own erasable easel with a weekly schedule that includes Yoga for tots and toddler therapy? At what point will they rebel? Are we not only stealing their innocence but also their creativity and potentially stifling their natural born gifts by forcibly directing them to activities that we as parents want them to engage in?
The remedy is a more malleable approach to parenting. It is documented that structure provides a great foundation for the development of children, but there must be unstructured time as well. Allowing kids to be kids. Encouraging them to use their own imagination, make their own choices and decisions (even if they are at times wrong) and handling the repercussions of those decisions.
By adopting a more goal-free approach to parenting, the child is provided with a more self sufficient arsenal of tools to help in future, real-life, practical experiences. This is nicely articulated by a response to my article in O, The Oprah Magazine by a high school student. He says:
“In today’s society, kids do grow up too fast. In the article, ‘Are Your Goals Holding You Back?’ the source of this problem is clearly stated. Many kids are influenced and sometimes even forced to have the same goals for themselves as their parents do. This greatly interferes with their childhood and outlook on life. Being forced into setting goals for yourself, unrealistic or not, you are telling yourself to only focus on one thing and forget about everything that is happening around you. With this, being a kid and wanting to do what all of the other kids are doing is extremely difficult because you are so fixed on your goal that leisure doesn’t fit into your agenda. Kids are running around panicking about a test they forgot to study for or they’re in tears because they didn’t make the basketball team and the thought of telling their parents make them sick to their stomach. If you were to ask most of those kids why they get so worked up over little mistakes they will respond with, ‘Because my parents will kill me!”
Pretty insightful response from someone who is not even 18 years old. How can you be more goal-free in your parenting style? Here are seven tips for helping you raise a more creative and passionate child.
1. Give your child guidance, not a leash. Instead of specific goals to achieve (e.g., being first chair in the school orchestra), have them choose a “game” to play (e.g., passionate music). Remind them of their game on a regular basis. Have them choose something fun and inspiring. This reduces stress, makes life fun, and may ultimately lead to great success.
2. Give choices; not dictum. Instead of telling your child “no,” teach them the power of choice. Give them options. If you want them to stop a bad behavior, let them know the consequences if they continue that behavior. Then have them choose – good behavior, or bad behavior and consequences.
3. Encourage your child to find their own “voice.” There is a great Visa commercial where the father of a roughly 7 year old boy is shown in various sporting goods stores buying virtually every piece of equipment under the son, and every shot of the boy participating in the sport is disastrous! The kid can’t kick, throw, or catch. In the closing scene, the child wins a chess tournament and the father throws his arms up victoriously. Failure leads to success. If your child doesn’t have a natural penchant for sports, even though you lettered in three sports all four years of high school, keep trying. With every failed attempt, you and your child find yourselves closer to success. Get your children to define success as what they like to do and are good at.
4. Use the “Yes, and…” improv comedy technique with your children. When your kid says something, you want to encourage them to play with their thoughts. Rather than suggesting their ideas are silly, use “yes, and.” No matter what they say, build on their idea and turn it into an even bigger idea. They’ll have fun. You’ll have fun. And they will take the conversation in ways that truly excite them.
5. Focus on the learning, not just the grades & degrees. Yes, getting good grades is important in society. But often it is at the experience of true learning. Teach your children to truly learn rather than focus on the grades. In the long run, they will learn to think for themselves. The truly successful people have more than academic skills. They have social, leadership, and creativity skills. Three things rarely taught in schools.
6. Want what you have - There are times when a parent has a certain expectation of how a child should perform, be it academically, physically, musically, or artistically, all based on the parent’s own understanding of their performance. Appreciate, regardless of the circumstances - at some point it becomes mandatory, if you want to have a healthy relationship with your child, that you simply appreciate them for who they are, limitations or not.
7. Allow children to be children. Parents are typically so worried that their children will miss out on something important, that they miss the thing they only get one chance at – childhood. Make sure there is time for creative activities. Time for play. Time to be a kid.
One study done by NASA years ago showed that 98% of 5 year old kids are highly creative, while only 2% of adults are. Society has stifled the creative growth of children. And in today’s world of rampant outsourcing, creativity may be your child’s main source of competitive differentiator.
Saturday, March 18, 2006
Learning from the Geese
One
As each bird flaps its wings it creates an uplift for the bird following, by flying in a "V" formation; the whole flock has 71% greater flying range than if the bird flew alone. Many of us recognise that there is a lot I can do by myself, there is a lot I can do with a colleague or partner, but the power of what I can get done with a network group is quantum. The lesson from this fact - people who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are travelling on the thrust of one another.
Two
Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to fly alone and quickly gets back into formation to take an advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front. Lesson from this fact – if we have as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those who are headed where we want to go and be willing to accept their help, as well as give ours to others who are looking for support.
Three
When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates back into the formation and another goose flies at the point position – an invaluable lesson for us to apply to all our group work. It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing the leadership. With people, as with geese, we are inter-dependent on each other's skills and capabilities and unique arrangements of power and resources; no one person is right to lead in all circumstances and at all times. Leaders need to learn to let go at times, and others must feel comfortable in stepping forward – no false modesty – no greed for power and position for its own sake.
Four
When a goose becomes ill or wounded or shot down, two geese move out of information and follow it down to help protect it. They stay with it until it is able to fly again or dies, then they launch out together with another formation or they catch up with their flock. Lesson – if we have as much sense as geese, we, too, will stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we are strong.
Five
The geese in formation honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed. Lesson – we need to make sure our honking from behind is encouragement and not something else! In groups where there is great encouragement against great odds, the production is much greater by the power of encouragement. The word "courage" means to stand by one's heart, to stand by one's core, to encourage someone else's core, to encourage someone else's heart – that's the quality of honking.
As each bird flaps its wings it creates an uplift for the bird following, by flying in a "V" formation; the whole flock has 71% greater flying range than if the bird flew alone. Many of us recognise that there is a lot I can do by myself, there is a lot I can do with a colleague or partner, but the power of what I can get done with a network group is quantum. The lesson from this fact - people who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are travelling on the thrust of one another.
Two
Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to fly alone and quickly gets back into formation to take an advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front. Lesson from this fact – if we have as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those who are headed where we want to go and be willing to accept their help, as well as give ours to others who are looking for support.
Three
When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates back into the formation and another goose flies at the point position – an invaluable lesson for us to apply to all our group work. It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing the leadership. With people, as with geese, we are inter-dependent on each other's skills and capabilities and unique arrangements of power and resources; no one person is right to lead in all circumstances and at all times. Leaders need to learn to let go at times, and others must feel comfortable in stepping forward – no false modesty – no greed for power and position for its own sake.
Four
When a goose becomes ill or wounded or shot down, two geese move out of information and follow it down to help protect it. They stay with it until it is able to fly again or dies, then they launch out together with another formation or they catch up with their flock. Lesson – if we have as much sense as geese, we, too, will stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we are strong.
Five
The geese in formation honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed. Lesson – we need to make sure our honking from behind is encouragement and not something else! In groups where there is great encouragement against great odds, the production is much greater by the power of encouragement. The word "courage" means to stand by one's heart, to stand by one's core, to encourage someone else's core, to encourage someone else's heart – that's the quality of honking.
~ Adapter from Dr. Angeles Arrien
Wednesday, March 08, 2006
Weeds
Today I saw some weeds growing out of concrete... a familiar sight. I've seen this a year ago... & I noticed the flowers on them too...
Take a closer look the next time you pass by some weeds... notice the delicate little flowers, notice the beauty & feel the strength... contemplate their persistence...
If weeds can grow out of concrete & lotus out of mud to breakthrough the surface tension of water, you & I can certainly grow beyond our current environment & identities...
Take a closer look the next time you pass by some weeds... notice the delicate little flowers, notice the beauty & feel the strength... contemplate their persistence...
If weeds can grow out of concrete & lotus out of mud to breakthrough the surface tension of water, you & I can certainly grow beyond our current environment & identities...
Ups & Downs
We are all familiar with the ups & downs of life. It is what we do when we are down that build the steps we need to create a strong foundation for us to stay up.
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Life's PO (Purchase Order)
According to Wikipedia, a Purchase Order (abbreviated PO) is a commercial document issued by a buyer to a seller, indicating the type, quantities and agreed prices for products or services that the seller will provide to the buyer. Sending a PO to a supplier constitutes a legal offer to buy products or services. Acceptance of a PO by a seller usually forms a once-off contract between the buyer and seller and no contract exists until the PO is accepted.
What is your PO to the Universe? What do you want of your life?
P = Purpose
O = Outcome
What do you choose to be the major definite Purpose of your life? This is the "Why".
What is the Outcome that you desire? What are your Goals? This is the "What".
The "How" will be Bestowed by a Benevolent Universe in the form of Synchronicity and Serendipity... our duty is to Recognise, Accept & Appreciate with Grace & Gratitude.
This is a fact of life, a law of the Universe. Believe, Respect and Allow it to work in your life. Nothing lies between O & P.
A person with the Vision of a major definite Purpose for life is someone with the power of a sharp razor which can more quickly and efficiently cut through obstacles and achieve Great Success with Grace.
It is the most invisible and slender edge of the razor that makes way for the bulk of material that would follow. Likewise, when a person Focus Energy in a specific direction with Clarity, Success in this single area would pave the way for further future developments in other areas.
What is your PO to the Universe? What do you want of your life?
P = Purpose
O = Outcome
What do you choose to be the major definite Purpose of your life? This is the "Why".
What is the Outcome that you desire? What are your Goals? This is the "What".
The "How" will be Bestowed by a Benevolent Universe in the form of Synchronicity and Serendipity... our duty is to Recognise, Accept & Appreciate with Grace & Gratitude.
This is a fact of life, a law of the Universe. Believe, Respect and Allow it to work in your life. Nothing lies between O & P.
A person with the Vision of a major definite Purpose for life is someone with the power of a sharp razor which can more quickly and efficiently cut through obstacles and achieve Great Success with Grace.
It is the most invisible and slender edge of the razor that makes way for the bulk of material that would follow. Likewise, when a person Focus Energy in a specific direction with Clarity, Success in this single area would pave the way for further future developments in other areas.
Monday, February 06, 2006
Survival of the Fittest?
Survival of the Fittest?
Not anymore. In this age, it’s the Survival of the Smartest.
The Strong takes from the Weak, but the Smart takes from the Strong.
Not anymore. In this age, it’s the Survival of the Smartest.
The Strong takes from the Weak, but the Smart takes from the Strong.
Saturday, February 04, 2006
Quotations on Learning (Work in Progress)
“Any child can be developed, it depends on how you do it”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn't been, and until the end of the world there will not be, another child like him.”
~ Pablo Casals
“Children desperately need to know - and to hear in ways they understand and remember - that they're loved and valued by mom and dad”
~ Paul Smally
“If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.”
~ Dr. Haim Ginott
“The finest gift you can give anyone is encouragement. Yet, almost no one gets the encouragement they need to grow to their full potential. If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the world would produce abundance beyond our wildest dreams.”
~ Sidney Madwed
“When love is deep, much can be accomplished”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them.”
~ Richard L. Evans
“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential... these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”
~ Confucius
“Great ambition and conquest without contribution is without significance.”
~ Professor William Hundert
“One should guard against preaching to young people success in the customary form as the main aim in life. The most important motive for work in school and in life is pleasure in work, pleasure in its result, and the knowledge of the value of the result to the community.”
~ Albert Einstein
“Children learn to smile from their parents.”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“Setting an example is not the main means of influencing another; it is the only means.”
~ Albert Einstein
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”
~ James Arthur Baldwin
“Not to know what happened before you were born is be forever a child.”
~ Cicero
“Who dares to teach must never cease to learn.”
~ John Cotton Dana
“It is necessary to be concerned about the importance of educating a really beautiful human spirit”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“The object of teaching a child is to enable him to get along without a teacher.”
~ Elbert Hubbard
“Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”
~ W. B. Yeats
“One looks with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.”
~ Carl Jung
“Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve.”
~ Roger Lewin
“The aim of education should be to teach us rather how to think, than what to think, rather to improve our minds, so as to enable us to think for ourselves, than to load the memory with the thoughts of other men.”
~ James Beattie
“We are shut up in schools and college recitation rooms for ten or fifteen years, and come out at last with a bellyfull of words and do not know a thing. The things taught in schools and colleges are not an education, but the means of education.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one.”
~ Malcolm Forbes
“ Education would be much more effective if its purpose was to ensure that by the time they leave school every boy and girl should know how much they do not know, and be imbued with a lifelong desire to know it.”
~ Sir William Haley
“The whole art of teaching is only the art of awakening the natural curiosity of young minds for the purpose of satisfying it afterwards.”
~ Anatole France
“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself.”
~ Galileo Galilei
“Education is the leading of human souls to what is best, and making what is best out of them.”
~ John Ruskin
“We must have the courage to examine everything, discuss everything and even to teach everything.”
~ Condorcet
“I've come to the frightening conclusioin that I am the decisive element in the classroom. It's my daily mood that makesthe weather. As a teacher, I possess a tremendous power to make a child's life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or de-humanized.”
~ Dr. Haim Ginott
“We spend the first twelve months of our children's lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next twelve telling them to sit down and shut up.”
~ Phyllis Diller
“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.”
~ Angela Schwindt
“I have never met a man so ignorant that I couldn't learn something from him.”
~ Galileo Galilei
“I am mentally preparing myself for the five-year-old mind. I want to come down to their physical limitations and up to their sense of wonder and awe.”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.”
~ Abigail Van Buren
“Education is a companion which no future can depress, no crime can destroy, no enemy can alienate it and no nepotism can enslave.”
~ Ropo Oguntimehin
“Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow.”
~ Anthony J. D'Angelo
“Genius without education is like silver in the mine.”
~ Benjamin Franklin
“The world does not pay for what a person knows. But it pays for what a person does with what he knows.”
~ Laurence Lee
“If a man empties his purse into his head, no man can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.”
~ Benjamin Franklin
“Education is simply the soul of a society as it passes from one generation to another.”
~ Gilbert K. Chesterton
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn't been, and until the end of the world there will not be, another child like him.”
~ Pablo Casals
“Children desperately need to know - and to hear in ways they understand and remember - that they're loved and valued by mom and dad”
~ Paul Smally
“If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.”
~ Dr. Haim Ginott
“The finest gift you can give anyone is encouragement. Yet, almost no one gets the encouragement they need to grow to their full potential. If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the world would produce abundance beyond our wildest dreams.”
~ Sidney Madwed
“When love is deep, much can be accomplished”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them.”
~ Richard L. Evans
“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential... these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”
~ Confucius
“Great ambition and conquest without contribution is without significance.”
~ Professor William Hundert
“One should guard against preaching to young people success in the customary form as the main aim in life. The most important motive for work in school and in life is pleasure in work, pleasure in its result, and the knowledge of the value of the result to the community.”
~ Albert Einstein
“Children learn to smile from their parents.”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“Setting an example is not the main means of influencing another; it is the only means.”
~ Albert Einstein
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”
~ James Arthur Baldwin
“Not to know what happened before you were born is be forever a child.”
~ Cicero
“Who dares to teach must never cease to learn.”
~ John Cotton Dana
“It is necessary to be concerned about the importance of educating a really beautiful human spirit”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“The object of teaching a child is to enable him to get along without a teacher.”
~ Elbert Hubbard
“Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”
~ W. B. Yeats
“One looks with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.”
~ Carl Jung
“Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve.”
~ Roger Lewin
“The aim of education should be to teach us rather how to think, than what to think, rather to improve our minds, so as to enable us to think for ourselves, than to load the memory with the thoughts of other men.”
~ James Beattie
“We are shut up in schools and college recitation rooms for ten or fifteen years, and come out at last with a bellyfull of words and do not know a thing. The things taught in schools and colleges are not an education, but the means of education.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one.”
~ Malcolm Forbes
“ Education would be much more effective if its purpose was to ensure that by the time they leave school every boy and girl should know how much they do not know, and be imbued with a lifelong desire to know it.”
~ Sir William Haley
“The whole art of teaching is only the art of awakening the natural curiosity of young minds for the purpose of satisfying it afterwards.”
~ Anatole France
“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself.”
~ Galileo Galilei
“Education is the leading of human souls to what is best, and making what is best out of them.”
~ John Ruskin
“We must have the courage to examine everything, discuss everything and even to teach everything.”
~ Condorcet
“I've come to the frightening conclusioin that I am the decisive element in the classroom. It's my daily mood that makesthe weather. As a teacher, I possess a tremendous power to make a child's life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or de-humanized.”
~ Dr. Haim Ginott
“We spend the first twelve months of our children's lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next twelve telling them to sit down and shut up.”
~ Phyllis Diller
“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.”
~ Angela Schwindt
“I have never met a man so ignorant that I couldn't learn something from him.”
~ Galileo Galilei
“I am mentally preparing myself for the five-year-old mind. I want to come down to their physical limitations and up to their sense of wonder and awe.”
~ Shinichi Suzuki
“If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.”
~ Abigail Van Buren
“Education is a companion which no future can depress, no crime can destroy, no enemy can alienate it and no nepotism can enslave.”
~ Ropo Oguntimehin
“Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow.”
~ Anthony J. D'Angelo
“Genius without education is like silver in the mine.”
~ Benjamin Franklin
“The world does not pay for what a person knows. But it pays for what a person does with what he knows.”
~ Laurence Lee
“If a man empties his purse into his head, no man can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.”
~ Benjamin Franklin
“Education is simply the soul of a society as it passes from one generation to another.”
~ Gilbert K. Chesterton
The Beyond Possibilities Logo
3 circles from the letters BP Each circle = Completion, Open & Transparent
Each a Portal of Possibilities... All Portals Beyond Possibilities...
2 circles = (horizontal) Infinity 
+ (vertical 8) Prosperity = Abundance
3 circles = ever expanding Possibilities, both breath (1st, bloom) & depth (flow). Unity, Oneness, Interconnectedness.
Body, Heart & Mind.
Physical, Emotional & Mental.
Juggling (basic pattern of fantasie de vinci - infinity symbol)
4th invisible circle = Spirit, Spiritual4 circles in balance = 2 pairs of opposites held in tension with an “invisible” Center of Peace, Truth, Joy, Compassion & Love, which holds everything together.
Body, Heart, Mind & Spirit.
4 circles together extend toward our external world and beyond to interact with & affect the Material, Social & Environmental circumstances that surrounds our outward lives. This is the Divine Without, our Sacred Source.Everything merges into the Universal Divine.
~ Rolling Thunder, CHEROKEE
“The atom is a circle, orbits are circles, the earth, moon, and sun are circles. The seasons are circles. The cycle of life is a circle: baby, youth, adult, elder. The sun gives life to the earth who feeds life to the trees whose seeds fall to the earth to grow new trees. We need to practice seeing the cycles that the Great Spirit gave us because this will help us more in our understanding of how things operate. We need to respect these cycles and live in harmony with them.”
~ White Bison
“The number Four, the first square number, reconciles the two forms of mathematical growth, being both 2+2 and 2x2, and it represents the human instinct for symmetry and order by dividing the compass onto four points and the year into four seasons. It is at the foundation of civilisation, settlement and rectangular land division. It is the foursquare number of solid earth as opposed to formless heavens.”
“The number Four, the first square number, reconciles the two forms of mathematical growth, being both 2+2 and 2x2, and it represents the human instinct for symmetry and order by dividing the compass onto four points and the year into four seasons. It is at the foundation of civilisation, settlement and rectangular land division. It is the foursquare number of solid earth as opposed to formless heavens.”
~ John Mitchell
Create Your Day
Dear Possibilities Seekers!
How are your New Year Resolutions coming along? For those of you who did not plan for what you want in 2006, I urge you to do so now! When you set goals and put in place a plan to achieve them, you are taking responsibility for your own life. No one else is going to do this for you...
When you schedule and plan your day by the hour, your life will be more organised and you will have a sense of achievement knowing that you are moving towards your goals, fulfilling your mission and achieving your life's purpose, each and every moment.
Start by allocating time to create your day one week in advance. Set up your work meetings and personal appointments as well as allocate time for family, friends and self (leisure, fitness, learning and service etc). More importantly, include your intentions for the coming week.
When you get used to this... extend the practice to create your day monthly. You will be able to see your life with clarity and also live life with confidence. You will be in a better position to determine which activities are aligned with your values, vision and goals. As a result, you will be able to make better decisions that place you on the path towards balance, happiness and success.
You will experience positive changes and results almost immediately. Do share your experience with me espcially when little miracles, synchronicity and serendipity start to happen in your life. Anticipate without expectations and you will be pleasantly surprised :-)
To help you start the life changing process of creating your day, I have included my personal planner free of charge... it is like nothing you have used before and you will be surprised by its simplicity. You will gain much clarity into the planning of your daily activities and also schedule your whole month on one single piece of paper!
I am using it myself & all my clients & students swear by it.
Simply print it out and use different color pens & highlighter to block out your schedules. Think of bar charts and you will get the idea. Write you activites in these hour blocks & experience for yourself how clear & organised your life suddendly becomes. Drop me an sms or email if you need help.
This was originally created for my personal use... then some friends love it so much that they suggested I should sell it... I have decided to share it with you for free.
It comes with my business card and flyer but I believe that once you experience the benefits this little tool brings... you will agree that it is great value & worth the change :-)
The planner will be available for free from our file store for a limited period only. Do let me know if you encounter any problems accessing this transformational tool.
"Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you ready or not, to put this plan into action." ~ Napoleon Hill
P.S. Please feel free to share it with your friends once you are convinced of its effectiveness & efficiency.
P.P.S. As this started as a personal planner, there were no legend... and because I live in Singapore, the holidays are in the context of my beautiful little country.
Pink = Public Holidays
Yellow = School Holidays
Green = Scheduled School Holiday such as Children's Day
This planner may be reproduced without change and in its entirety for noncommercial and personal use only.
How are your New Year Resolutions coming along? For those of you who did not plan for what you want in 2006, I urge you to do so now! When you set goals and put in place a plan to achieve them, you are taking responsibility for your own life. No one else is going to do this for you...
When you schedule and plan your day by the hour, your life will be more organised and you will have a sense of achievement knowing that you are moving towards your goals, fulfilling your mission and achieving your life's purpose, each and every moment.
Start by allocating time to create your day one week in advance. Set up your work meetings and personal appointments as well as allocate time for family, friends and self (leisure, fitness, learning and service etc). More importantly, include your intentions for the coming week.
When you get used to this... extend the practice to create your day monthly. You will be able to see your life with clarity and also live life with confidence. You will be in a better position to determine which activities are aligned with your values, vision and goals. As a result, you will be able to make better decisions that place you on the path towards balance, happiness and success.
You will experience positive changes and results almost immediately. Do share your experience with me espcially when little miracles, synchronicity and serendipity start to happen in your life. Anticipate without expectations and you will be pleasantly surprised :-)
To help you start the life changing process of creating your day, I have included my personal planner free of charge... it is like nothing you have used before and you will be surprised by its simplicity. You will gain much clarity into the planning of your daily activities and also schedule your whole month on one single piece of paper!
I am using it myself & all my clients & students swear by it.
Simply print it out and use different color pens & highlighter to block out your schedules. Think of bar charts and you will get the idea. Write you activites in these hour blocks & experience for yourself how clear & organised your life suddendly becomes. Drop me an sms or email if you need help.
This was originally created for my personal use... then some friends love it so much that they suggested I should sell it... I have decided to share it with you for free.
It comes with my business card and flyer but I believe that once you experience the benefits this little tool brings... you will agree that it is great value & worth the change :-)
The planner will be available for free from our file store for a limited period only. Do let me know if you encounter any problems accessing this transformational tool.
"Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you ready or not, to put this plan into action." ~ Napoleon Hill
P.S. Please feel free to share it with your friends once you are convinced of its effectiveness & efficiency.
P.P.S. As this started as a personal planner, there were no legend... and because I live in Singapore, the holidays are in the context of my beautiful little country.
Pink = Public Holidays
Yellow = School Holidays
Green = Scheduled School Holiday such as Children's Day
This planner may be reproduced without change and in its entirety for noncommercial and personal use only.
Copyright © 2005-2006 Alex Chua
All rights reserved. International copyright secured.
All rights reserved. International copyright secured.
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Namaste,
@lex Chua
Beyond Possibilities
Wednesday, January 25, 2006
Coming Full Circle
Not sure who the author is... but at least now I understand what they mean by coming full circle ;-)
At age 4, success is...not peeing in your pants.
At age 12, success is...having friends.
At age 16, success is...having a driver's license.
At age 20, success is...having sex.
At age 35, success is...having money.
At age 40, success is...finding meaning & purpose to life.
At age 45, success is...finding meaning & purpose to life.
At age 50, success is...having money.
At age 60, success is...having sex.
At age 70, success is...having a driver's license.
At age 75, success is...having friends.
At age 80, success is...not peeing in your pants.
At age 4, success is...not peeing in your pants.
At age 12, success is...having friends.
At age 16, success is...having a driver's license.
At age 20, success is...having sex.
At age 35, success is...having money.
At age 40, success is...finding meaning & purpose to life.
At age 45, success is...finding meaning & purpose to life.
At age 50, success is...having money.
At age 60, success is...having sex.
At age 70, success is...having a driver's license.
At age 75, success is...having friends.
At age 80, success is...not peeing in your pants.
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